After deleting yet another vile anti-gay comment from a reader (I wonder why they bother in the first place), I stumbled upon an amazing article in the Salt Lake City Tribune: http://www.sltrib.com/ci_4136232 - a couple who both knew the bride-groom was gay, still decided to marry - not really pressured by their faith or the belief he would ever “turn straight”, but just because they loved one another.
It’s a special, sometimes heart-warming story 
Quote:
“ “The special circumstances of same-sex attraction have made us extremely close,” Jason said in a phone interview. “Closer than I think either of us could have been in any other relationship.”
Jason has accepted his gayness and doesn’t care if it never goes away.
“My attractions are as potent as any normal male’s. I feel stirrings for other men with the frequency that men feel sexual stirrings, and let’s be honest, that’s a lot,” he says. “On the Kinsey scale, I’m as gay as they come.”
As Jason anticipated making love to his wife for the first time, the thought was repulsive. He had a gnawing anxiety that he wouldn’t be able to do it. But he was.
“I am surprised at how fulfilling my sex life is with my wife,” he says. “It definitely exceeded my expectations.”
In conversations online, Jason uses the name “Another Other” to symbolize his outsider status. He doesn’t belong to the straight world because of his attractions to men, but he’s not part of the gay community because of his marriage to a woman.
“I am accepted neither by the normal Joe nor by the group that shares my plight,” he says. “To one I am an anomaly, to the other I’m some sort of traitor to the cause.”
He started his blog, gaymormonandmarried.blogspot.com, so people could know there are options other than celibacy, a totally gay lifestyle or “marrying a girl to see if you can get better.”
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To add a local, contrasting touch: in 2004, Serge Muyters, Antwerp’s openly gay chief of Police, married his male lover, another high-ranking gay police officer.
[left: Serge Muyters, gay-married and respected.]
This blog is not affiliated with or endorsed by the city of Antwerp, Belgium.
I’m stunned that people that people feel threatened by someone gay.
For me, homosexuality is just another normal … I mean, how does ‘gayness’ change who a person actually is; how they think or live in the world … how does it change who they are? I’ve never understood that.
I had two friends back in NZ who were interesting, kindhearted, amusing, intelligent people who happened to be homosexual. So what …?
Nothing vile from me
[Comment from the author: "Thanks
I noticed that the "you filthy etc" abusive comments tend to originate from countries where 'non-hetero-sexuals' have a hard time. Apparently some new EU member countries feel that 'exporting' intolerenace towards gays and lesbians is a suitable way to celebrate the open-arms approach from the EU. But even a country that pretends to carry the torch of freedom (the USA) is not only the major source of spam, but also the major source of anti-gay hate-postings... Kind of sad, but then, there is that magic "delete and block" button. Anyway, I feel really lucky living in a country that has no major problems with the fact that part of its inhabitants are 'non-straight' - I can marry another man if I care to do so, enjoy enforcable equal rights and walking hand-in hand has never been a problem in Antwerp.
If I tell you that Antwerp’s (male) chief of police is married to a male police commissioner, does it give you some idea of the degree of acceptance here? ;-) ]
Comment by Di — September 20, 2006 @ 3:54 pm
Gert knows the two of them through work … I loved it because the police force in NZ appears to be one of those bastions of intolerance, along with the building trade and etc …
Having written that, I just added Chris from Wanaka (NZ) to my links list today. His openess about being gay in a small town in NZ indicates that another shift may have occured during my absence in my funny little downunder society
Tis good.
Comment by Di — September 21, 2006 @ 12:10 am